Looking for Couples or Marriage Counseling in Minnesota? You Are in the Right Place If...
Do any of these sound familiar?
You and your partner are struggling to connect emotionally
Your relationship is just not where you'd like it to be
You and your partner feel like roommates
One or both of you are checked out of the marriage and/or considering divorce
At our Plymouth, MN counseling office, our therapists have specialized training in sex therapy. However, you do not have to come in specifically for help with sex in your relationship. We help couples with a number of primary concerns with how the marriage or relationship is going right now. In spite of this, we have yet to met a couple who wouldn't at least benefit from our sex therapy training in some way!
Here are some common reasons for couples to come to therapy:
Of course, all couples are different. Concerns will arise out-of-the-blue, and some things have been simmering for years. However, we often see many of the same themes when partners decide to come in for marriage counseling and couples therapy.
Unless we are making a daily effort to show our partner they are important to us, we will become distant in our relationships very quickly. We help couples who just need a bit of help in this area, and couples who feel completely disconnected. It feels isolating and lonely when this occurs. This does not have to be your reality forever. Often, getting things out in the open with a professional can be a huge step toward finding the kind of connection you once shared.
Do you feel like you and your partner are always fighting? This could be fighting over small things, having small conflicts, or engaging in huge "blow-out" fights. We can help you understand WHY you are having these fights and how to do things differently. John Gottman, a well known marriage researcher, says 69% of all conflicts in a marriage are unsolvable. That's right - 69% of the things you are arguing about now will always be an issue - the key is to figure out which are the solvable problems in your relationship and work to resolve those, while learning to accept the things that simply may never change.
Is it difficult to talk about certain topics in your relationship? Or, maybe you can talk but, it never feels like you actually get anything solved. We can help!
Are you both going about your day to day lives without each other? Living lives together but that aren't really "together"? Many couples can get this way over time, and often it takes some intentional work to get out of it.
On the Brink:
Are you and your partner on the brink of divorce or separation? Maybe you've discussed the options, maybe you've only thought about what divorce or separation might mean for your life. Many couples enter therapy with one partner leaning towards staying in the relationship and one leaning towards getting out of the relationship. Both may even be unsure if their relationship can last. We will help you talk through the pros and cons of your relationship, your values, your solvable vs. unsolvable problems, and other concerns. By doing this, we will work together to see if you can come to a place where you both want to stay in the relationship. We hope to help you stay together, if that is what you both want. If you ultimately decide to separate, we can also help with intentional uncoupling - which is a process of separating with dignity and remaining friendly. This can be especially helpful if you have children and will need to continue to co-parent with each other.
How can we help?
We are trained couple therapists--the only type of therapists truly trained to work with couples. We believe our relationships are everything and will get back out of the marriage what we put into it. We strive to help you meet your goals for the relationship, whatever they may be. If you and your partner have different goals, we can help you to come to a compromise about how time will be spent in therapy.
Beyond our graduate training we also have extra training in specific methods of couples therapy that are proven to be effective. Our marriage counselors use research-based couples therapy methods, such as EFT and Gottman based therapy. We also believe that the way we watched our parent(s) and other extended family be relational can affect our relational competence with our current family. We help you explore and gain insight surrounding your "Relational DNA", to help you have a more satisfying relationship.
Can I come to therapy to work on my relationship without my partner?
Many people ask us if they can come by themselves for relationship issues - absolutely! When one person in the relationship works to change it can always make a difference. We can give you tools and tips to try both independently and with your partner if they are willing.
Sexual Wellness Institute, PLLC is a specialized sex & relationship therapy practice in Plymouth, MN. We serve clients all over Minnesota and Wisconsin and are located near Maple Grove, St. Louis Park, Wayzata, & Minnetonka.