How to Use Bridgerton to Spice up your Sex Life

​Written by Sexual Wellness Institute Owner and Therapist, Amanda Holmberg, MS LMFT

As a sex therapist near the Twin Cities, I often recommend using various forms of media and entertainment to help couples explore and enhance their sexual relationships. One of the most intriguing shows in recent years is Netflix’s "Bridgerton." Its blend of romance, scandal, and sensuality offers a perfect backdrop for couples looking for something new. Here are some tips on how to use "Bridgerton" to spice up your sex life!

1. Explore Historical Fantasies

"Bridgerton" is set in the Regency era, a time of elaborate dresses, formal balls, and strict societal rules. This historical setting can be a great way to explore role-playing fantasies. You can go all out with dressing up in period costumes, using old-fashioned language, and creating a story where you and your partner are characters in a Regency romance. You can also choose just one of these aspects to dip your toes in the waters of role playing. Role-playing can help you step out of your everyday routine and possibly help with jump starting sexual desire.

2. Communication and Consent

One of the key themes in "Bridgerton" is the importance of communication and consent. The characters often engage in candid discussions about their desires, boundaries, and expectations. Use this as an inspiration to have open conversations with your partner about your own sexual needs and boundaries. Clear communication is crucial for a healthy and satisfying sex life

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3. Sensual Settings

The show features many beautifully crafted settings that ooze sensuality, from lush gardens to opulent bedrooms. Take a cue from "Bridgerton" and create a romantic and sensual environment in your own home. Light some candles, play soft music, and decorate your space to make it feel special and inviting. A change in scenery can help set the mood for intimacy

4. The Power of Anticipation

"Bridgerton" is masterful at building anticipation. The slow-burn romance between characters can be incredibly enticing and can teach us the value of anticipation in our own relationships. Try building up the anticipation with your partner through teasing texts, lingering touches, and prolonged eye contact. Drawing out the build-up can make the eventual intimacy even more exciting

5. Embrace Sensual Touch

The show is filled with scenes that highlight the importance of touch and physical connection. Pay attention to how the characters use touch to convey their emotions and desires. In your relationship, focus on non-sexual touch to build intimacy and connection. Gentle caresses, massages, and hand-holding can enhance your bond and lead to more passionate encounters

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6. Learn from the Characters

Each character in "Bridgerton" has a unique approach to love and intimacy. Take some time to discuss the characters with your partner and identify which ones you resonate with. Do you see yourself as the strong minded Penelope? Or maybe you are drawn to new experiences with your sexuality like Benedict. Discussing the characters can lead to a deeper understanding of your own desires and how you can bring more of those qualities into your relationship

7. Spice Up Your Language

"Bridgerton" features eloquent and poetic language, which can be incredibly arousing. Experiment with using more descriptive and romantic language with your partner. Compliment them, express your desires, and share your fantasies in a way that feels both genuine and passionate. Words have the power to create a deeper emotional and physical connection

8. Playful Competition

The show often features playful banter and competitive interactions between characters. Introduce some playful competition into your relationship. Whether it’s through a game, a dance-off, or a friendly bet, a little competition can add fun and excitement to your dynamic, leading to a more vibrant and passionate connection

Interested in Starting Sex Therapy in Plymouth, MN?

"Bridgerton" offers a treasure trove of inspiration for couples looking to spice up their sex life. I suggest you go over this list with your partner(s) and see which one resonates with you to try first. Need to talk with someone? Our sex therapists want to help you address sexual concerns here in Plymouth, or anywhere in the state with online therapy in Minnesota. Get started by following these simple steps:

1. Contact the Sexual Wellness Institute to set up your first appointment.
2. Meet with one of our skilled sex therapists for an intake appointment.
3. Begin building better communication with your partner, overcome sexual concerns and experience new fun and intimacy in your relationship!​

Other Mental Health Services in Minnesota

In addition to sex therapy, our LGBT & polyamory friendly sex therapists provide a wide range of mental health services at our Plymouth, MN counseling office. Other services include couples therapy & marriage counseling, EFT, evidence-based couples therapy, EMDR & sexual trauma therapy, as well as, teen therapy. In order to help serve the mental health needs of all those living in Minnesota, we also offer online counseling & sex therapy. We also provide a variety of helpful tips on our mental health blog. Please feel free to reach out with questions, or if you would like to schedule an appointment to begin working with a skilled sex therapist! Your sex life can be amazing. Sex therapy can be a part of that process for you.

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