Q:What is Sex Therapy? A: As defined by the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, “Sex Therapy is a subspecialty of psychotherapy, focusing on the specific concerns related to human sexuality.” What this means is that sex therapy is talk therapy, where the issues that you talk about are sexual concerns. Sex therapists have acquired scientific knowledgeable about sexual functioning, and are trained in ways of helping people deal with sexual problems. The goal in sex therapy is for you to be happy and satisfied with the sexual aspects of your life and relationships.
Q: How do I know if sex therapy is right for me? A: Anyone who is concerned with some aspect of their sexual experience or feelings can benefit from sex therapy. Some issues we can help you with include: experiencing low or mismatched sexual desire, difficulty in becoming sufficiently aroused, performance issues, worries about achieving orgasm too quickly, too slowly or not at all. Sometimes people have concerns about what is “normal”. Perhaps you are a couple who are unhappy with your intimate relationship for one reason or another. Often, couples find that they have differences in their sexual desire or preferences. They may have different ideas about frequency, emotional intimacy, or sexual style. A sexual relationship that was satisfactory in the beginning may develop problems later on, as a result of children, job and life stressors, medical issues, or aging. Sometimes couples have stopped being sexual for one reason or another, and one or both would like to re-establish their physical relationship. In general, many people struggle to communicate about sexual issues. It is a tough topic that many of us were not taught how to talk about in our developmental years. Thus, as adults, communicating about sex can often feel shameful, embarrassing, and anxiety-provoking. We work with both individuals and couples to resolve these and similar issues, in order to achieve greater sexual satisfaction and intimacy. If you find yourself having some sexual issues and general marital concerns we can help with it all! We are trained as marriage and family therapists--the only type of therapist that is trainied systemically and specifically to help relationships.
Q: What will we do in our sessions? A: Because sex therapy is essentially a specialized focus of therapy, your experience of going to a sex therapist will be very much like any other therapy experience. We will start by discussing what issue you would like help with. You will be asked about what is happening (or not happening) now, and how you would like things to be different. We will also review a thorough sexual history. If we are working with you as couple, we will start by meeting with both of you together, then may meet with each of you individually. It is important that we understand you, so that therapy can be tailored to meet your specific needs. We will have clearly stated goals, and will be working to implement the specific changes that you would like in your life. Sometimes we will also communicate with other professionals involved in your care, such as your physician or other counselor. We will spend some time in the session talking about ideas and feelings about sex, but you will also have “homework assignments” that you will do in the privacy of your home. These may be written or communication exercises, behavioral interventions, or may be specific experiences that will help you to progress toward your goals.
*One thing that will NOT occur: NO nudity or sexual activity of any kind will occur in our office, nor will we see you outside the office, or ask you to video any sexual acts. Your will never be pressured to discuss anything you are not comfortable with, and all discussions will always be respectful and appropriate.
Q: Why choose a sex therapist over another therapist? A: Sex is a sensitive and personal subject.Sex therapists specialize in the area of sex and have an interest and greater comfort level in talking with you about sexual concerns.
Q How long will it take to resolve my sexual problems in therapy? A: There are many factors to consider when coming to therapist for sexual concerns. Because of this, is it difficult to predict the length of time you will spend in therapy. After we discuss your specific concerns, we will discuss treatment and form a plan together.
Q: Can I use my insurance? What are the costs? A: We do not accept insurance. We have chosen this intentionally so that we have more control over your treatment. Many insurance companies do not cover sexual concerns when billed directly, and most do not cover couples therapy. This allows us to give you the treatment you are asking for (and need!) without the insurance company dictating everything we do. With this you can also feel more comfortable that your private information is being kept completely confidential and away from your insurance company. If you would like to, you are welcome to submit sessions for possible out of network reimbursement. Some insurance companies are willing to reimburse our clients a portion of the costs for each session. We can supply you an itemized statement for each fully paid session which you can submit along with your claim to your health insurance provider for reimbursement. There is no guarantee that the insurance provider will accept a portion or the full cost of services. Contact your insurance provider to see if they accept out-of-network provider billing statements.
Sexual Wellness Institute, PLLC is a specialized sex & relationship therapy practice in Plymouth, MN. We serve clients all over Minnesota and Wisconsin and are located near Maple Grove, St. Louis Park, Wayzata, & Minnetonka.